When will we be enough for ourselves?

Do you feel how stress, burnout, depression, anxiety disorders, other psychological diseases are spreading not only somewhere in the world, but also in our environment? Books are written about it, shows are made, and it becomes like a pandemic. Or maybe fashion? Because if everything is fine with you and you're happy with life, someone will definitely comment that maybe you're not doing enough.

And who is to blame for that? Are we really doing too much?

I would say we are doing too little. We do too little for ourselves, to meet our inner needs. We listen too little to what our heart, our inner self, really wants. All our efforts are directed outward. In order to please the manager, we do his every order without even considering whether it will really benefit the company. We try to help colleagues, sometimes even taking over their work. After work, we want to show our friends how cool we are, because we go to classes and parties together, just to upload another photo on social networks. We still try to please our parents, even though we have been independent for a long time, but we feel indebted to them. We have to make dinner for my husband, otherwise he will be angry. And again everywhere we need to do, we have to do, but for the sake of others.

We do a lot, but we don't fill our glass, the reserves of others fill up. After all, we only meet their needs. When we turn to ourselves, we feel inadequate, because it seems that the need from others only increases, and we no longer have the strength to respond to it. This happens because when we direct our efforts outward, we exhaust our energy reserve, and if we do not get pleasure and satisfaction from it, we do not replenish it. We live in debt. Every new project, every new invitation from friends starts to get annoying, we don't want to get up from the sofa anymore, because it seems that once we get up, the work and affairs will not end.

And maybe now is just the time when we don't have to get up from that couch in order to understand what I want? After all, each of us was born enough. That cute baby was the center of attention just by being there. He didn't have to prove why he was born. Only later did the need to please someone start to appear.

We are stuck in such a circle of "doing for others" that when we look at ourselves, we realize that we do not know ourselves. We don't know what we really like because we always do what others do or what needs to be done. From that not knowing comes a feeling of insecurity, because it seems like we are doing so much, but somehow it is not enough, where is the limit? Where did that little man go who had enough of his own dreams? We do not find them among our activities, jobs, duties. Then we do even more, but again not for ourselves... because we don't know what to do for ourselves anymore. It is at that moment that burnout begins, stress arises, that presence for others no longer brings pleasure. But what are we without them?

And we are. We're here for ourselves, we just can't hear it...

Stop it. Listen up. It will take time to calm your mind and hear yourself, but don't give up, it will come.

Hypnotherapy and RTT help to realize and move out of this vicious circle. Don't be afraid to look for yourself, because when you find it, treasures will open.