It all starts with self-love

Do you feel love for yourself? And do you feel that the phrase “self-love” is becoming a bit worn out? It has become not only a description of internal experiences, but also a commercial trick of salespeople trying to offer something that is not always needed. And they succeed in this perfectly, because we still see self-love as buying a new dress or a new watch, getting drunk until dawn, another cupcake with coffee to take away... and it doesn’t matter that we can afford it. But can we afford to be the way we really want to be?

Do we understand what love is? And what is self-love?

You will feel true self-love not when you buy another dress or watch, because when your best friend leaves, you will be bored and have nothing to do, but when, being alone, you realise that you lack nothing. When you allow yourself to be alone and enjoy that presence, when you don't need meaningless meetings just to silence your thoughts. When you like what you think and accept it as a part of yourself, you don't try to run away from it and allow yourself to be who you want to be inside at that moment. When you don't just say that you love yourself, but you feel it and take action on it, showing your attitude towards yourself, drawing boundaries. When you separate yourself from negative experiences and consider it a momentary experience, but not your being. When you tell yourself that self-love starts with the simple things I do - going for a walk, asking for help, letting myself sleep, etc. Imagine that your best friend is second in line, because you are the first.

Think about how many times you've tried to escape yourself by drinking alcohol to drown your sorrows, watching one episode after another of a boring TV series just to keep you awake, gorging yourself at night on unhealthy food, secretly watching pornography, or buying unnecessary things without moderation. It seems like no big deal... after all, many people do this. But is it really? Think about the situations and your emotional state when you did this, or if it happened to your best friend, would it seem normal? Of course, there are times when you need to celebrate, when you need new shoes, or when you want to do nothing and watch a TV series, but when it becomes a suppression of emotions, it's very far from self-love. Because instead of having an open conversation with yourself and accepting yourself, you try to hide it under things that give you short-term happiness, and your emotions remain unrequited. They accumulate under artificial objects of happiness and one day explode in fear, anxiety, self-doubt... Because suddenly you realise that what you have no longer makes you happy.

And then what? Where to find that love for yourself?

We are each born with a need for unconditional love. As babies, we expect our parents to love us at all costs. And when that doesn't happen, we try to get that love in various ways - by crying, getting sick, causing problems, and other ways that our childish minds understand. And only when we grow up do we start wondering why I can't find a soulmate, why I can't lose weight, why I can't find a job that's worthy of me, and so on. Then we need a cupcake or another pair of shoes in the closet that doesn't close to cheer us up. But it all starts with self-love! If we didn't learn to feel it when we were children, then in our lives we often indulge in compromises offered by people who feel stronger love for ourselves, in shopping and other obsessions. And later, realising that we are choosing the wrong thing for ourselves, we try to escape from it in the stupidest ways.

But let's not try to escape, but to feel self-love. Starting with listening to ourselves and feeling what I want. And then things will start to change by themselves, because your subconscious will already know what to do and what decisions to make.

All means to understand your true needs are appropriate. Hypnotherapy helps to effectively discover the reasons for self-loathing and unlock the true experiences why it was not possible to experience them. It helps to reach your subconscious experiences in childhood and rewrite them so that you can continue to learn to experience that love by following your own path.

So go, find your own path, because once you find it, the effect of love begins!